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Your Source of Authority

by Karen Garvey on 03/01/17

We each have within us the seed of truth that allows for self-governing.  When we allow that seed to sprout, we begin to sense an internal compass that is based on a system of honor.  There are no laws, rules, or governances that can override or replace this inner wisdom. 


This seed enfolds all that is necessary to create an abundant, happy life for ourselves and with others.  Nurturing the seed is quite simple.  It takes a few dedicated practices, as well as specific habits to avoid, in order for the seed to grow into its richest potentiality.  Below you will find a synopsis of those practices to embrace and to avoid.


Let’s look at the idea of self-governing.  Collectively, if we separate from our own power, we will pass our power onto others.  We can also fall into an unconscious habit of disempowering others as well, through manipulation, ignorance, or even through good intentions.


Think about the stages of growth of a child.  It’s natural for an infant to be spoon-fed and gradually mature into self-feeding.  The healthy maturation process is enhanced by the child’s natural desire to do for himself.  Even if a caregiver resists the natural development because he or she fears the child “growing up too fast” or likes the role of caregiving, the child’s instincts will likely reject dependency and strive for autonomy.


As the child grows, the link between autonomy and independence may grow more obscure if caregivers allow their emotional needs to override the child’s innate desire for self-sufficiency.  For example, parents may not let a child cross the street, ride a bicycle, go to a friend’s house, or play outside for fear of injury or otherwise.  A parent may continue to pick out the child’s clothes, do all homework with him, and pack his backpack for school long after the child has the capability of doing these things for himself.  Further, a caregiver may remove the child’s opinion from their decision-making process, thus severing the trust that the child innately had had in himself. 


The emotional needs of adults often sever the innate link that children have with their inner knowingness by doing too much for them and/or by heavily restricting their autonomy.  This same process often occurs at an organizational level (governmental and religious) as well.  Rulers or legislators who are elected or appointed to power who do not live in a state of self-love or within in a system of honor will create increasing numbers of rules and regulations to direct others’ choices and behaviors.  The underlying premise is that people are not innately wise enough to make decisions for themselves.  The result is a parasitic form of co-dependency that often becomes so behemoth that it cannot progress.  The dependency and need-for-power cycle may continue to the point that self-determination becomes extinct. 


Contrarily, what does life look like for a group of self-loving individuals living within a system of honor?  First, there is happiness, abundance, and freedom for all.    Self-loving communities who live in honor respect each other, respect the planet, respect ideas, respect the plant and animal communities, respect their bodies, and respect that everyone is doing the best within his or her level of awareness.  They honor the individuality of each person and encourage each other to ignite their greatest potentiality.  They do not need someone to tell them how to think, how to feel, what to believe, or how to act.  They do not steal from others through greed or otherwise, disempower people to fill holes in their own feeling of self-worth, nor do they dictate or legislate every last detail of others’ choices.  


Their answers come from the seed within each individual, a seed that was allowed to grow and to thrive into a powerful state of self-determination.  The inner compass is not based on manmade rules or imposed morality; the compass is based on eternal knowledge and love.   


If you would like to increase your ability to live an empowered, inspired, emboldened, energized, self-determining life, then review these practices.  Make a point of increasingly embracing those that grow the seed, and letting go of those which suffocate it. 


Here is a brief look at what does NOT allow for the healthy growth of the seedling:


Fear – when you live in fear, you pass your power onto another source instead of tapping into the power within you.


Judgment – judgment prevents growth.  Period.


Jealousy – a healthy dose of competitiveness, or even envy, can act as a fuel to ignite our talents.  Unchecked jealousy, however, is analogous to an invasive plant species that can choke everything around it, including itself. 


Greed – we are entitled to unlimited abundance and are not entering into the realm of “greed” until we have more than we can own, maintain, or attain with integrity.


Guilt – guilt is learned.  Unlearn it.  Guilt is the antithesis of inner wisdom.  In our attempt to gain approval or acceptance, or to avoid some imaginary punishment, guilt quiets our inner knowingness and replaces it with others’ views of what deems us worthy.  Guilt is like trying to grow a plant without a light source.


Shame – shame is perhaps the single greatest stifling emotion, preventing growth and joyful expansion.  The process of releasing judgment of others can eventually help us to release judgment of ourselves as well. 


All the above emotions/habits create a need to seek authority outside ourselves.  We lose the ability to unlock reason that aligns with honor. Here are some simple practices to grow the seed instead of stifle it:


Question everything – do not supplant your inner wisdom with the pleas or arguments of others, especially if another’s suggestions are based in fear, jealousy, and/or greed.


Listen to your intuition – the more you live in fear, the more your gut feelings and inner guidance will be quieted.  


Turn off the news – in today’s world, unless you live way way way off the grid, you will always know enough about the happenings in the world to be informed.  Saturating yourself in a daily onslaught of negative news reports is like drinking battery acid.  It will rot you from the inside out. 


Quiet your mind – get yourself out of the way on a regular basis through walks in nature, exercise, music, meditation, yoga, etc.  The quiet mind is the passageway to eternal truth and inner wisdom.


Love yourself more – self-love is the foundation for all happiness, success, fulfillment, and harmony.  If you haven’t read it lately, re-read BEGIN HERE.


Shine on!




If you would like guidance to help you discover your harmonious path, contact Karen for coaching or a one-on-one session.  An investment in your happiness today pays for itself through prosperity, love, and peacefulness.


Karen, you are like a lighthouse standing tall amongst your surroundings and casting a brilliant beacon of white light onto our world.  I am grateful that your beam casts its way to me.  Thank you for who you are and what you do.  - Ric Statler, Huntington, NY

What I Stand For...

by Karen Garvey on 02/01/17

I rescue kittens and birds.  I talk to strangers.  I hug trees.  I look at people in the eyes.  I do not cower.  I do not retreat.  I do not live in fear.  I do not let others tell me how to think or how to feel or what to believe.  I believe in myself.  I believe in humanity.   I believe that every human being has the birthright to be respected, to be loved, and to be free.  I stand up for myself.  I stand up for others.   I recognize that differences cause many people to be afraid, to fear that which they do not understand, and I do my best to observe their behavior, prefer mine, influence for the better what I can, and move on.

Complaining is a non-productive luxury we cannot afford.  Wallowing in self-pity or fear of others is a waste of time.  If pointing fingers is the only exercise someone is getting, I suggest they go outside and run or hike or walk.  The body movement may even accidentally "get themselves out of the way" so that they can glimpse the truth that can come through a quiet mind.  The truth is we are one, here, there, and everywhere, on and off earth.


What controls you?  Fear?  Government?  Low self-esteem?  Disempowerment?  Make a decision right now that the only thing that controls you is you.  For better or for worse, that’s where the power lies.

So, head up, stand tall, be all you are meant to be, and ask others, in kindness, to do the same.


Shine on!

Relax, Sleep, Dream, Peace

by Karen Garvey on 01/09/17

The world is saturated with advice about how to live better, think better, feel better, and be better.  There’s a lot of pressure to reach and sustain some level of perfection, but sometimes you just feel crummy.  An occasional day or two gives us an opportunity to regroup and forgo responsibilities.  It allows a chance to be without a to-do list, and without that voice in our heads telling us the importance of improving something.


Minor illnesses, crankiness, and insomnia are our bodies’ way of telling us that we are not honoring our own needs - that stress, guilt, responsibilities, and worry have supplanted our freedom to choose nothingness.  This year, try a new approach.  In addition to honoring your body through nutrition and exercise, schedule an abundance of downtime so that your body doesn’t have to compel you to take time off.   If you actually write “downtime” on your calendar, you will be more likely to take it.  Treat it as if those appointments are as important as any other.  Then resist the temptation to get things done during those time-slots.  Instead, play, do nothing, engage in a hobby, or enjoy nature.  We’re not here to just do.  We’re also here to just be.


Another way to eliminate some stress is to make sure you’re sleeping well.  The ever-turning wheels of your thoughts may not turn off easily when your brain is crammed with worries and to-do lists.  The mind needs a break.  Good sleep can provide not only that daily break, but also gives your soul an opportunity to wander away from the body in freedom and limitlessness.  The dream state provides a chance to visit your unconscious memories, find solutions, visit with guides and passed loved ones, and bring you messages.


Here’s a formula that works to ensure restful nights, especially if you struggle with insomnia:


First, select a daily hour during which you feel comfortable that you can go to bed each day, for example from 11 pm to midnight.  Strive to make sure that your head hits the pillow by the end of that hour’s time.  The consistency of a typical bedtime helps your body to create predictable rhythms that promote sleep.


Each night about 20-30 minutes before you shut out the lights, follow a series of steps to condition your body to disconnect from the day’s activities.  First, prepare a hot, sugar-free, caffeine-free beverage such as chamomile tea (with honey if preferred) or warm milk.  Sip your beverage in bed with lights dimmed.  On a bedside notepad, jot down your daily “worry list,” a list of all the “stuff” racing through your brain.  Get it out of your head and onto the paper.  This technique often serves to deflate the seeming importance of the worries.  The worries will be nicely preserved on your pad so you don’t have to “worry” about forgetting to worry.  


After you pour everything out of your mind and onto the page, choose a time for the next day that you will “worry” about the items on the list.  While thinking about your calendar, make sure that the time you choose will be free.  Write that time on the piece of paper and, ideally, also set an alarm for that time.   Put the list away, and feel grateful that your worries are now outside your body so you can sleep deeply.


This step works and here’s why:  The part of your brain that is born of the earth (unlike your eternal consciousness) acts as a guard dog for you.  It thinks it’s doing its job protecting you by not letting you forget anything that you suppose you may have to attend to.  It can’t distinguish between a superfluous worry and a real circumstance for which your brain power can seek a solution.  Therefore, it vigorously revisits all “unfinished’ happenings.  By writing down all the items you feel you must think about as well as your worries of the day, your brain lets go.  The watch dog rests.  By choosing a time to revisit the list on the following day, your watch dog feels confident that it doesn’t have to keep the item consistently at the front of your thoughts.


The next step is to actually revisit the list the following day at the designated time.  The items will likely seem less cumbersome when you read them than they did at bedtime.  You may also find that some line items have naturally resolved themselves.  If you do not revisit the list, your watch dog will stop allowing your brain to let go in preparation for slumber.  Another benefit of recording your worries is that it helps to retrain the mind to let go of nonsense.   


Downtime and restful sleep are major contributors to feelings of well-being and optimism.  You will live with a renewed sense of peace and harmony, enjoying the energy to master the complexities of daily life.   


Shine on!



If you would like guidance to help you discover your harmonious path, contact Karen for coaching or a one-on-one session.  An investment in your happiness today pays for itself through prosperity, love, and peacefulness.


Karen, you are like a lighthouse standing tall amongst your surroundings and casting a brilliant beacon of white light onto our world.  I am grateful that your beam casts its way to me.  Thank you for who you are and what you do.  - Ric Statler, Huntington, NY

Bumble

by Karen Garvey on 12/04/16

In the tale of Rudolph, the abominable snowman is mean and scary.  Little kids hide their eyes when he blocks the cave with Rudolph and the others inside.  Even adults are on the edge of their seats as the scene cuts to a commercial and we don’t know who’ll live or die (well … maybe not, but who knows?).  


I like that the abominable snow monster’s name is Bumble.  It reminds me how we bumble through life before we “wake” up and remember truth.  We can be mean or scary.  Or we can be afraid and insecure.  We behave in all these silly ways because we’ve forgotten the awesome truth of how extraordinary we are and how great life is.  


When Hermey removed Bumble’s teeth, Bumble lost his bite.  Unable to attack or threaten anymore, he remembered that he was, by nature, good-hearted and lovable.   Whether our defense mechanism is to attack or to retreat, to sacrifice or to steal, or to feel superior or inferior, we bumble through our day-to-day experiences in the dark as to why we behave as we do.  We forget what on earth we’re doing here.


Step away.  Just step back, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Why am I here"?Are you meant to struggle?  Are you meant to suffer?  Should you spend a lot of time trying to get out of a state of pain?  Are you meant to be mean or to judge others?  Are you meant to be afraid often?  Do any of those answers resonate with you?   Or do you think, perhaps, you’re here to enjoy, to love, to create, to be, to feel joy and happiness?


It seems like everyone knows, deep down, we have the birthright to happiness.  Cultural, religious, familial, and media brainwashing separate us from this truth, and the collective conversation is further pushed as we face hardships.  Yet, despite how we (as humans) live, life is meant to be enjoyed.  Struggles and hardships as the norm are based on a collective agreement that humans constructed as they separated from the enlightenment we know as souls without bodies. 


Remembering what we knew at birth and reclaiming our birthright is the key to unlocking everlasting happiness.  All the profound wisdom and tools are right there inside of you, and I dedicate my life to helping you recall them all.  My mission is to increase the positive level of awareness of millions of people … and I will get it done!  With your help, of course.


Choose happiness.  And join me in my mission to help others unlock theirs as well.


Do you want to know another great thing about Bumbles?  They bounce!  Bumbles bounce.  That means that no matter how much bumbling you’ve done in life, you WILL bounce back.  You will unlock the life you want to live in all its full richness and vivid beauty.


Let’s keep getting there together.


Shine on!


The World is Counting on You

by Karen Garvey on 11/01/16

Change is inevitable.  


There are fundamentally two types of changes, those which affect your individual experience, and those which affect the collective.  For example, quitting your job is a personal change, and electing a new president is a collective change.


Although it’s tempting to believe that life happens to us, it simply does not.  Life happens WITH us and FOR us, not AT us or TO us.  Individual changes result in more obvious ways how life is happening for us, but what occurs on the bigger stage is also happening for us.  Whether the collective experience involves weather, politics, crime, or any challenge, the experience happens FOR us and WITH us.


Collective change can create fear for some people, because they feel like they have no control over the outcome. The fear that emerges is similar to the fear that arises for some when they fly. They are handing the journey and the outcome to an unknown person with the hope that he or she is highly competent and healthy, and with the hope that the plane and the weather will support their safety.


Similarly, facing the election of a new president, fear can emerge by the thought of handing over the direction of the country to an "unknown" person.  This reaction is caused by the belief that a new president can potentially lead our country to the ruination of life as we know it or life as we would like it to be.  The key word in that sentence is "belief."  Even if your candidate of choice is not elected, if you believe that he or she will have very little direct affect on your personal reality, then guess what?  He or she will have very little affect on your personal reality.  If the candidate not of your choosing is elected and your belief is that ruination has begun, then you are more likely to magnetize and create unlikeable happenings in your life.  You may even suppose that the new administration is the cause, but it's not likely.   It's more likely that your feeling of disempowerment would precipitate the emerging challenges.


So let's connect the two concepts.  If personal change is more likely to show evidence of happening FOR and WITH you rather than AT or TO you than collective change shows, and yet you can create negative changes by believing an upcoming collective change will destroy some aspect of life that you regard highly, then that means that even collective change happens FOR you and WITH you.  In this case, your feeling of disempowerment and your subsequent reaction to that feeling, creates an energy that mirrors back to you a reflection of what you put out there.  The universe's job is to reflect back to us what is going on inside of us in order to ignite self-knowledge (awakening).


So what can you to do enhance your life regardless of which candidate is elected?

Choose your reaction


The greatest determining factor about how collective change will affect you personally is your perception and reaction.  


Suppose the person elected was not who you wanted to win.  How will you react?  Will you move to Canada, or go off the grid?  Will you become irritable and snap at others?  Will you complain endlessly and dislike (perhaps more) the people who you think supported the new president-elect?  Any of these reactions is actually a reaction to feeling disempowered, a feeling that emerged in you long before this election.  To get back your power and transform your energy to allow for a positive transition of government, ask yourself where the true roots of your feelings began. Take time with the contemplation.  Go beyond the surface.  Think back to how you were treated as a child by family, parents, teachers, siblings, coaches, etc.  Were you loved and guided, respected for the uniqueness of you?  Figure it out. Let this knock on the door create a catalyst for you to remember how awesome you are, once and for all.


If your choice of candidate is elected, continue to look for and find the good that surrounds you.  Be optimistic and supportive of the world you want to live in.


Live in respect and honor


Honor and respect everybody’s ideas and respect all people, those whose ideas you agree with and those with whom you disagree.  An improvement in your level of honor will favorably affect you as a person as well as affect humanity.


Negativity attracts negativity


You don’t have the luxury of wallowing in fear, self-pity, confusion, or inertia.  Happily, there are plenty of techniques to overcome these limits.  If an external circumstance creates anxiety or fear for you, the energy you emit will allow for the change to reflect itself more directly in your life.  Choose another focus.  Change your thoughts 180 degrees. 


Find the benefits


Regardless of your perception of external shifts, there are always benefits enfolded in change.  Hunt until you realize not just one benefit, but many.  Perhaps the new president is helping millions of people to realize what they want, or perhaps the new administration is igniting people to find their voices and take back their power.


Pursue self-improvement


Self-confidence, a positive attitude, goal-setting, and surrounding yourself with people, ideas, speakers, articles, and media that support your version of the world you would like to live in will pronouncedly buoy the happiness you experience.


Make your best contribution


You can't do everything, but there are things you can do.  Do them.  Make the world a kinder, more beautiful, more positive, more love-filled place through the choices you make.  EVERY thing you do, EVERY thing you think, and EVERY thing you believe affects not only you, but everyone around you.  And, to some extent, it affects everyone everywhere.  Choose your thoughts, your beliefs, and your actions carefully.  Your happiness and the happiness of the world depends on it.


Shine on!

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