Strengthen your Love of Self
by Karen Garvey and her guides
Life has a way of telling us that we are not as worthy or lovable as we really are. Whether it’s through others’ ignorance, their low level-of-awareness, or their lack of personal self-love, we have a tremendous number of incidents that seem to indicate that we are not worthy. Yes, we also have reinforcement of our worth, but the incidents that trigger feelings of insecurity or “I am not enough” are the ones that often plague us as adults.
There are very few definitive statements that I make based on my years of being a conduit to universal knowledge, but one I will state boldly:
If everyone on earth loved him or herself fully, there would be no more crime, war, poverty, disease, or disharmony.
This statement implies that self-love is the most important area of growth in order for humans to experience the bliss and unity that we are capable of experiencing. Although many people who are on a path of self-discovery believe that they love themselves fully, I suggest that you consider the following questions:
- Do you feel inadequate, angry, or insecure during a disagreement or break-up with a romantic partner?
- Do you believe that the economy is solely responsible for your relationship with prosperity?
- Do you stay in a job that you dislike when you have a strong passion for another career possibility?
- Do you believe that you will deteriorate or become sickly as you age?
A person is not deficient or inadequate if they answered “yes” to any of these questions. They are human and have been separated to some extent from COMPLETE love of self. Considering that any “no” answer indicates a hole in one’s self-love, the next thought might be, “regardless of how well I love myself now, how can I love myself more?”
Try an experiment this month. Every time you experience an emotion of inadequacy, anger, or insecurity, ask yourself how the trigger for that emotion reflects an area in which you do not fully love yourself. For example, if you believe that you cannot strike out on your own in your career, how does this feeling indicate a compromised self-love? Perhaps you believe that the economy is stronger that your own ability to manifest an abundant reality. Perhaps you’ve heard that most businesses fail within their first two years. Maybe you believe you could never earn enough through a passionate pursuit to live the lifestyle you would like.
All of these reflections are rooted in a lack of self-love. These are the reasons we tell ourselves we can’t succeed, but they are not the reasons we can’t succeed. As you listen to your own reasoning about why you believe you can’t succeed, begin to transform your choice of language and thoughts to empowering choices. Here are examples of how to convert the above reasons-to-fail into opportunities-to-succeed:
Reason-to-fail: The economy is stronger that my ability to manifest an abundant reality.
Empowering replacement thought: During every economic downturn, there are those who magnetize in and create abundance. I am one of those people.
Reason-to-fail: Most businesses fail within their first two years.
Empowering replacement thought: My positive thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions are aligned with wisdom and power. My business will succeed.
Reason-to-fail: I could never earn enough through a passionate pursuit to live the lifestyle I would like.
Empowering replacement thought: Passion leads to abundance. Doing what I love makes me so happy that those positive feelings will help me continue to remove my layers of misbelief. I feel myself shifting from a scarcity paradigm to an abundance paradigm.
Any shift in thinking takes focus to become permanent. As you exercise your ability to shift your thinking toward more empowering and self-loving perspectives, you will shift your life and witness dis-harmonies fade. If you have not yet read BEGIN HERE, this book is another useful tool to enhance this shift.
And as you grow, remember this important message as well. Wherever you are in your journey of awakening, you are lovable and worthy. Noticing the holes in your self-confidence is designed to set you on a course of overcoming limits, but you are FULLY lovable NOW.
If you would like guidance to help you discover your harmonious path, contact Karen for personal or professional coaching. Intuitive coaching allows you to discover shortcuts from where you are to where you want to be by attuning to information that can eliminate barriers and enhance success openings. An investment in your happiness today pays for itself through prosperity, love, and peacefulness.
“Karen, you are like a lighthouse standing tall amongst your surroundings and casting a brilliant beacon of white light onto our world. I am grateful that your beam casts its way to me. Thank you for who you are and what you do.” - Ric Statler, Huntington, NY