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Karen L. Garvey, MBA - Author, Speaker, Psychic Medium, Personal & Professional Coach
What does everyone have in common? The globally connecting desire that every human has is that he or she wants to be valued and appreciated. Understanding this truth can make life a lot simpler. Try, over the next few days, to witness all of your interactions through this lens. You will discover a lot about yourself and others by continually reiterating in your thoughts, “Everyone just wants to be valued and appreciated.” Challenge yourself to apply this knowledge to make each of your interactions smoother, meaningful, and mutually beneficial.
Any negative reaction that you elicit from someone through your deeds or words stems from that person not feeling valued. Think about it. Review these examples of communication misfires to learn to isolate the stem of disconnect. As you read the scenarios, try to imagine why the disconnect is initiated.
1. Your employee looks exasperated when you hand her a new assignment. 2. Your son gripes about cleaning his room. 3. Your neighbor complains about your dog barking.
As you assess each instance above, consider that the way each person feels appreciated is unique to them. Some people want physical affection, some want kind actions; others prefer compliments, some like material shows of gratitude. Others, still, want their “rights” met; they may have a sense of entitlement. Often people have a rigid view of what is right and wrong, and expect to be treated according to these parameters.
Again, live with this statement playing in your mind over and over again. “Everyone just wants to be valued and appreciated.” As you connect with people, decide what makes them feel appreciated, and earnestly do your best to deliver it. It may be easier to act hastily without regard to the other person’s perspective, but the one who loses the most in the end is you. Your peace will be compromised. Your love of self will be lessened when you act arrogantly, indifferently, angrily, or with your own sense of entitlement.
Be who you are capable of fully being and your relationships will flourish.
If you would like some guidance to help you discover your happy path, contact Karen for coaching or a one-on-one session and let your guides reveal your truth to you. An investment in your happiness today pays for itself through prosperity, harmony, and peace.
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1. The employee uses a look of exasperation when handed the assignment because of one of two reasons. She feels undervalued and a sense that she is taking on an undue share of the workload, or she has a sense of entitlement that her workload is enough. An appropriate approach to soften this interaction is to intuit how the employee will feel. If you expect that she will feel “put upon,” then approach her based on which of the two reasons you believe are operating. If she feels she has taken on more than her share, acknowledge this fact. State openly, “I understand that you are currently taking on more than your share …” then state the reasons why. Also, offer gratitude and an indication why this burden is temporary. If, on the other hand, she has a sense of entitlement to an easier workload, remember that even she wants to be valued. Earnestly compliment a part of her recent performance. Surely, you can find something to value? If you struggle, then perhaps you have located the disconnect – you don’t value her; therefore, she is right to feel unappreciated.
2. Your son has been interacting with your form of “clean your room” request for a long time. What is the pattern of your delivery? Do you show respect for him? Do you yell, whine, complain, or act disrespected? Your actions until now have played a large part in his re-actions. It is never too late to begin a new paradigm. How can you improve your request? Again, find something to value or appreciate about him and state it. Tell him. You may also, with kindness, indicate that privilege and responsibility go hand-in-hand. Maybe the responsibility is boring, but his privileges are worth the effort.
3. The neighbor has a belief that he is entitled to freedom from intrusive noise. Your dog is violating his peace. Understanding this principle allows you to be considerate in your response. Maybe your dog could benefit from some training. Perhaps you have been remiss in your responsibility in raising a neighborhood-friendly pet. If the barking incident is anomalous, then you can simply apologize, give a reason for the unusual behavior, and assure him that you will do your best to prevent this behavior in the future. Slam dunk … the neighbor feels valued and heard.